tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20831465.post115748169600556123..comments2023-04-12T09:21:53.168-04:00Comments on A Journey Through Infertility: I Know What You're Going Through . . .Sunny Jennyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04279507232889931671noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20831465.post-1158014821565844852006-09-11T18:47:00.000-04:002006-09-11T18:47:00.000-04:00At this moment, I am absolutely stunned to hear th...At this moment, I am absolutely stunned to hear that my Mother has another daughter. You just described MY life and MY mother in this excerpt. Taking a moment to consume the wierdness of this.....<BR/><BR/>It's called a personality disorder. It took me years of therapy and research to really pin it down. I knew I had to deal with it (analyze it) or it would consume me. Or worse, I would become her. Now I'm a social worker working with other 'hers'.<BR/><BR/>I don't want to go on and on in this comment section, but if you want to discuss it further let me know. Empathy, sympathy, anything. Been there, done that; doing that. Still alive and kicking!!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06477543108055597027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20831465.post-1157673770683286502006-09-07T20:02:00.000-04:002006-09-07T20:02:00.000-04:00I am so sorry that you had to go through that Jenn...I am so sorry that you had to go through that Jenny. Your mother sounds like a real piece of work. No one can possibly understand what you and Harry have been through. Sending you a hug.Mary Ellen and Stevehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09192652589445635157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20831465.post-1157668552992303502006-09-07T18:35:00.000-04:002006-09-07T18:35:00.000-04:00I am so sorry you have such a narcissistic mom! Th...I am so sorry you have such a narcissistic mom! The last thing you need is someone who can't listen to you!seattlegalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07596706264163818014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20831465.post-1157665574497309892006-09-07T17:46:00.000-04:002006-09-07T17:46:00.000-04:00No advice from me.... just big cyber hugs. And per...No advice from me.... just big cyber hugs. And perhaps a cyber bitch-slap for your mom - but I'm sure she'll have a story to one up me on that too.<BR/><BR/>Bugger her - YOU ROCK and deserve the very best. Hugs, hugs, hugs.<BR/><BR/>KBarely Sanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13264676811698784334noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20831465.post-1157617677012934522006-09-07T04:27:00.000-04:002006-09-07T04:27:00.000-04:00I'm so sorry. This is why I don't tell people unl...I'm so sorry. This is why I don't tell people unless I'm sure they won't let me down like that. I wish the person letting you down wasn't your own mother. That's so hard.<BR/><BR/>BeaBeahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11877513815828460269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20831465.post-1157595727894319312006-09-06T22:22:00.000-04:002006-09-06T22:22:00.000-04:00We care. :( I'm sorry that this is such a strained...We care. :( I'm sorry that this is such a strained relationshipFamily Tieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06181013513923752540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20831465.post-1157592838239019872006-09-06T21:33:00.000-04:002006-09-06T21:33:00.000-04:00Oh Sunny, I feel your pain, I really do. The #1 r...Oh Sunny, I feel your pain, I really do. The #1 reason I haven't told my mom about our infertility life is because I know she will tell me she knows what I am going through (because it took her all of 10mnths to get pg with my brother). Your mother is a total shit. I hope that Harry can help fill that void of love for you.xhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02110178612938574287noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20831465.post-1157589477622170062006-09-06T20:37:00.000-04:002006-09-06T20:37:00.000-04:00{{BIG HUGS}} to you!{{BIG HUGS}} to you!Angiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15386896329430903898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20831465.post-1157555952588758702006-09-06T11:19:00.000-04:002006-09-06T11:19:00.000-04:00Dang. What is it with people. NO one can EVER know...Dang. What is it with people. NO one can EVER know "exactly what you are going though" <BR/>When my first IVF ended up ectopic (and a blighted twin I JUST found out about) I was told by someone close to me the same.damn.words. This person missed a period and THOUGHT she was P.. so she knew what I was going through.Good Lord, some people need a good smackdown. <BR/><BR/>Best advise I can give you is to take what she says with a grain of salt. Be the better person and just give her a mental pat on the head and send her on her way. I know how hard that has to be as this is your Mom. Still, you need to have your head straight and your emotions settled. Do not let your self be drawn into the game that is being played. Since you are aware of what she does, try to steer the converstaion the way YOU want it to go. Realise it has to be all about her and don't let her control you and play you emotionally anymore. It is hard, but after the first time you do, you will feel wonderful. Trust me on this.<BR/><BR/><BR/>I still wish there was a way you could actually get a house as well. The distraction of looking around may be just what you need, plus the equity can be used if needed. <BR/><BR/>I hope you get all the hugs you need : )Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01781454327470293464noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20831465.post-1157554910230477882006-09-06T11:01:00.000-04:002006-09-06T11:01:00.000-04:00:) Squirelguirrel - that's my SIL :) Thanks! I hea...:) Squirelguirrel - that's my SIL :) Thanks! I heart you.Sunny Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04279507232889931671noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20831465.post-1157504110321673042006-09-05T20:55:00.000-04:002006-09-05T20:55:00.000-04:00Wow- what a narcissistic mother you have. I am so ...Wow- what a narcissistic mother you have. I am so sorry!GLouisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15146524259296901512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20831465.post-1157490134469172332006-09-05T17:02:00.000-04:002006-09-05T17:02:00.000-04:00My husband has a father who is the same way. He c...My husband has a father who is the same way. He could care less about anyone but himself. It has sent us both into therapy. They were awful about our infertility situation. Just awful. Like making me cry awful.<BR/><BR/>The term for your mother is narcissistic. Hope I spelled that right. I used to think this word merely meant selfish or self-centered, but it means so much more. My husband and I kept shaking our heads when we read the criteria, his father met almost every. single. one.<BR/><BR/>My husband had a hard time coming to grips with the fact that his father was never going to be a father like one thinks a father should be. He could care less about anything unless it benefits HIM. Look it up on the internet. <BR/>This is by no means your fault. It happens very early on in their own lives, and the person will NEVER change, no matter how many times you try to sit and reason with them. <BR/><BR/>It's been a hard road for my hubby and me. You'd think that a parent could help and support you at a time like this, but some parents are too absorbed in their own lives to give a damn.formerteacherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13174688455833231110noreply@blogger.com