Don't you know just when you're plugging along doing fine, finally getting some peace in the IVF world ...
A letter comes from out of no where to pull the rug right from underneath you!
Our RE has decided to change labs. We have 4 frosties at said lab. So Harry and I have a major decision to make just at a point where we don't want to make any reproductive decisions. YES!
Here are our options:
1. Destroy our frosties
2. Undergo a FET before October 1 at current lab
3. Have frosties moved to new lab and pay transportation costs
4. Do nothing and abandon our frosties
We can't come to an amicable decision. Our 4 frosties are the bottom of the embryo barrel. Matter of fact I don't expect them to survive the thaw. But you know what, they're my frosties and I love them. Harry wants to move onto a fresh cycle and abandon the 4 underachievers.
I am stressing about making a decision, rushing into a FET, and possibly impending marital discord in my home.
decisions, decisions, decisions . . .
Wednesday, August 16, 2006
The Letter
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That's a tough decision; I am so sorry that you and Harry need to figure this out.
Maybe a compromise is to pay the $$ to transfer them over so you at least have options??? Might be a way to buy some time until you're really ready to make a move.
Just a thought. Hugs - I am sorry you have to deal with this on top of all the IF bullsh*t.
I am granting you the strength to make a decision. My thoughts are with you!
That is a tough decision. I honestly don't know what I'd do in your situation. So sorry you have to make this decision at all!
That's tough. I think that if it were me I would pay to have them transferred to the new lab. That way you can use them down the road when you are ready. I hope that you and your hubby are able to work something out, and I am sorry that you have to deal with this. Hugs.
Yeah - I guess it would depend how much it cost to transport them, too.
I'll refrain from saying, "Well, if it was *me*...." because, you know, it's not.
Bea
My frosties cause heartache as well. I agree with serenity. You can discuss fresh vs. frozen some other time, but at least hold on to the frozen just in case.
Thanks all for the comments and care. N- I could leave my frosties at the lab but then would have to work with another RE for the transfer. That's not going to happen. It would be like working with another husband. ;) I love my RE and couldn't imagine have anyone else up my cooter. I'll be posting an update soon.
I think Serenity's idea is a good one. Transfer them over so that you can decide later. It's a difficult decision and you shouldn't have to rush to make it, this way you'd have a little more time to discuss it or just forget about it for a while if you aren't in the mood to make any reproductive decisions. Good luck. I'm sorry that something like this popped up out of nowhere when you needed some time away from IF.
So sorry to hear that you have to make a decision, like IVF isn't complicated enough.
As for the FET, I am all for going for that as that is the only time I have had a successful cycle so I believe that you just never know... but that's just my opinion!! :)
Take care and good luck. Whatever decision you make will be the right one for you!
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